Your brokenness can often leave you feeling full of shame and condemnation. You may feel that your story isn’t powerful or the things you’ve been through don’t mean anything to anyone else. You feel like you should be shut down.
We tend to feel like we’re the only ones experiencing this.
No matter what you’ve done or the mistakes you’ve made, be encouraged because you’re going to be able to use your experiences for God’s glory.
1. Your brokenness can be a blessing.
I want you to focus on this because so often our brokenness tends to keep us sheltered. It keeps us from believing we’re not good enough.
Someone may have beaten you down for years making you feel unworthy and that you don’t have a calling. This could make you forget the truth that God speaks about you.
I want to show you how to change your perspective from your struggles and the things you’ve experienced to focus on the good that can come of those situations.
A good exercise to do is to write down your struggles and try and see the positive in them.
I know how hard that is because I’ve had those moments where I’m sitting on the floor and I’m crying out to God and I don’t understand. I would be in so much pain and I wished I could tell everybody but I felt so ashamed about the decisions I’ve made in the past.
I’m here to tell you that you are not alone.
2. Your brokenness can increase your business.
Here’s how. People don’t want your product. They don’t really care what your product is. They want more of you. They want to know that you can say – ‘me too.’
If someone says they didn’t work out for a week because they were stressed, you can say me too.
Or if someone has a really hard time putting down a bag of baked potato chips, you can say me too.
If someone says they struggle with being confident in their business and feeling like they’re not good enough, you can say me too.
The struggles that we have can expand our business to new levels.
It’s going to make you relatable. It’s going to make you feel normal to other people, because when someone sees me on social media they might look at me like I’m a celebrity.
But I’m so human. I say things I shouldn’t say. I make mistakes. I lash out when I shouldn’t lash out. I do things that are human.
No matter what you see on social media there’s always something else going on.
There’s always something else that I am working through. It could be an area that God is constantly showing me where I can improve. These are the areas where I can say ‘me too.’
I know what it’s like to not have money. I know what it’s like to not have a mom or a dad. I’m not married yet and I don’t have kids, but I can relate to not feeling like I’m good enough or feeling like you have to do everything and you can’t get anything done.
The things you have gone through are only going to inspire someone that needs to hear it. And that to me is part of your purpose.
What you’ve been through is going to help. It creates relationships. It creates bonds. It makes you relatable on so many different levels.
3. Your brokenness makes you beautiful.
Nobody else has experienced what you have. God has given it to you. The decisions you’ve made are yours. Nobody has made the exact decision or choice.
To me beautiful is unique.
- Beautiful is when you stand up when everybody tells you to stand down.
- Beautiful to me is so many other things than what we see on the outside.
- I love when someone can walk into a room and have that quiet confidence. It makes them beautiful.
- I love when someone is able to own their mistakes and know it’s unique to them because it’s what they’ve gone through and they give all the glory to God no matter what it was.
Your brokenness and what you’re dealing with, whether you can see it right now or not, makes you beautiful. It makes you so different than anyone else. God created you. He knows every hair on your head. He created you with design and purpose and your body structure and the way you think.
Your struggles, your brokenness and the decisions that left you feeling unworthy are also what makes you unique.
4. Your brokenness helps you bond with other people.
We’re here for community. That’s what God calls us to do. We need to be in community to be able to inspire people all across the world.
You may have heard little bits of my story that may have inspired you or helped you think differently. We’ve created a bond because I’ve been vulnerable enough to share my purity and my past and why I decided to wait to have sex before marriage.
For me the brokenness makes me bond with you better. It makes me real. It makes me honest too.
5. Your brokenness can bring on bigger opportunities.
I used to hang around with drug addicts and alcoholics and go to the bar even though I never drank or used drugs. But if you had told me then that I would be where I am today in my business and surrounded by the people I have now and getting ready to be married, I would’ve laughed in your face.
I also didn’t have any idea how to run a business because nobody taught me.
But it was in those broken moments where I looked for opportunity and I looked for ways to better myself. .
We have to be the ones to ask to God open our eyes to see what He wants us to see in the situation. If you feel a certain calling in your heart and you have some direction but not all the pieces to the puzzle yet, just go for it.
We can’t rely on God to plant everything right in our lap.
Take one step at a time. That is what we need to focus on.
Your brokenness that you consider is shaming you and keeping you beat down, is the same thing that can create new opportunities for you. You might not see it now because it’s too painful to look at.
In 2014 I went through a terrible breakup and I didn’t know what I was going to do. I had crazy thoughts and I was miserable and depressed. My business took a back burner. In the midst of all that I wrote a book and it became a #1 best seller on Amazon. I never thought that would’ve happened.
Allow your stories to come to fruition when God brings them.
You’re going to experience new levels of opportunities to bond, to make yourself even more beautiful, to know that it’s a blessing and to give the glory to God.
Let me recap.
- Your brokenness helps increase your business
- Your brokenness makes you beautiful.
- Your brokenness creates bonds.
- Your brokenness creates more opportunities.
No matter what we go through it can still glorify God.
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Are you ready to let your brokenness be a blessing to others? Take the time to look at your brokenness and allow God to use you to help someone else. Leave me a comment and let me know where you are in your journey.