Most of us strive for perfection and everyday we seem to fail. We think we have to be perfect in our workouts, or in business, or in being a mom or a wife. Everyday we tend to feel like we missed the mark.
I noticed that I do this too. We just want perfection. We can’t reach perfection because we are not the Perfector. We are not God or Jesus and we will never be an example of perfection.
We Can Inspire Others
The only thing that we can be is inspiration to others. What we can do is help other people know that we struggle too and show them what we’re doing to overcome the struggle.
I want to encourage you to be more like Jesus and encourage you to get rid of trying to reach perfection.
As I was reading in Luke, I noticed common characteristics of Jesus. I read about all the things He was going through, the people He would meet and how they would drive Him out of His own town. Jesus experienced some of the same things we experience today.
It’s reassuring to know we’re not alone. Even though we can’t reach the perfection that Jesus had, we can apply what we learn in scripture to our own lives.
5 Tips To Help You Know You Don’t Have To Strive For Perfection
1. People didn’t understand Him.
I like the story about Jesus when He was a young boy with His parents in the synagogue. His parents left to go home, but Jesus wasn’t with them. They searched for Him and then returned to the synagogue. They found Him there and asked where He was and told Him they were looking for Him. He didn’t explain Himself.
What I love about it, is that He was submissive to His parents. Jesus didn’t speak to His parents and say, “Don’t you know, mom, that soon I’m going to be walking on this earth healing people?” He didn’t have to explain Himself.
People didn’t understand what was going on. His parents didn’t understand and wondered why He would not follow them when they left, but stayed in the synagogue instead.
If you try to force people to see what it is you believe in, or try force your spouse to love Jesus, they won’t understand.
We have to start being like Jesus.
People aren’t going to understand and they will wonder why you are with someone, or why you want to start a certain workout program, or why you are investing in a certain business. People are going to start asking you questions. You have to understand that people asked Jesus questions too.
2. Jesus knew that He was going to upset people.
We can’t go into a relationship and think everything will be perfect. We can’t go into a new fitness program, or business, thinking we can attain perfection. We hold ourselves to a standard of perfection. We want to reach perfection in every area of our life. The only One who is perfect is Jesus.
He knew when He was healing on the Sabbath that He was going to upset people. He could perceive their thoughts. In Luke it says so many times about how He knew what they were thinking. He knew they were upset and they chased Him out. They wanted to throw Him off a cliff at one point.
You’re going to upset people with the decisions you make. Say for eg. you’re in a close group of friends and you start working out and lose weight. These people might be upset because you’re changing. It’s the opposition you’re going to feel as you become more like Jesus and walk in authority and grow into who it is that God made you to be.
3. He always walked with power and authority.
In Luke 4:32 it says: and they were astonished at His teaching for His words possessed authority.
Sometimes when we go into something new, we lack authority and confidence. We’re afraid of what other people will think. We’re afraid of upsetting them. We’re afraid of failing. We’re afraid of so many things, so we sit back and let others have authority over us instead.
Today I want to encourage you to walk in the authority that Jesus walked in. When He was healing people or delivering people of unclean spirits, He didn’t second guess it. He spoke with authority in His voice and tone.
Speaking with authority doesn’t mean perfection either. It’s how you show strength of character to others as you pursue your goals and walk in your purpose.
4. Jesus never second guessed who His Father made Him to be or what His purpose was.
When He was praying before He was crucified, He asked His Father to take this from Him, but He still knew it was part of His purpose.
We often want to second guess who God created us to be, because we allow other people to upset us, to derail us, to make us feel like our purpose isn’t important, or to make us feel little and unworthy. They attack with their words. Then we start to second guess our purpose.
For example, if you start a new adventure and you are clueless, someone may say something negative to you, or you may have just missed the mark on that new opportunity, you then begin to feel like maybe this isn’t for you. You think maybe this isn’t your purpose, or maybe you should be doing something else.
Have you been there? I know I have.
Jesus never second guessed what His purpose was.
We want to know every piece of the puzzle but we can’t. We expect to know every piece before we start the journey.
Continue to walk in your purpose without striving for perfection. People will see that even though you don’t know everything to begin your new business or new venture, you continue to believe that God has given you a purpose and that you won’t give up.
5. He loved without hesitation or second guessing. How good is that! He was very forgiving.
I honestly couldn’t imagine betraying Jesus like Peter did. Even though Peter denied Jesus at first, Peter’s purpose was big. If we really think about the walk of the disciples, and the things they went through, and the things Jesus went through, we can apply that to our day today.
There might be times when you deny Jesus in your own way. You’re so angry at Him and you can’t think about wanting a relationship with Him. That’s okay, because I believe as you start to work on your own heart and your own journey, He can still use you in such a powerful way. He loved without hesitation and had such a forgiving heart and was able to propel people forward in their purpose.
He was never second guessing who’s He was and His purpose. We tend to do that often and we feel like we’re failing. I just think about Jesus and Peter. After Peter denied Him, Jesus was able to use Peter for such a greater cause.
I want to be more like Jesus and love others without hesitation. I don’t want to second guess the love that He has given us to love other people. A forgiving heart is something we all need to work on. The anger and resentment building up can really change our world and blur our perspective. Until we take down the walls and work on our own hearts, we will not be able to see the gifts that God has for us.
At the same time, you don’t want to walk around pleasing people. I used to do that and still find myself starting to please people. That’s when I look at Jesus and remember there will be times I will upset people. It’s not being rude, but I know that some of my decisions are going to upset people.
As we walk in our own journey, we don’t need to use our own strength, which causes us to strive for perfection. We can be led by Jesus and walk in His strength.
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I hope I’ve encouraged you and shed some light on why you don’t have to strive for perfection. Are you ready to allow the Holy Spirit to lead you and guide you in your walk? Let me know in the comments.