God is not punishing you. You may think God doesn’t care or love you enough to bring you a spouse. But maybe you’re not ready for someone. Maybe you’re in this season to learn how to be by yourself.
In this season think about God as:
- Protecting you.
- Preparing you.
- Loving you so much, that He doesn’t want you to settle for less than His best.
- Loving you enough to help you work on yourself.
What Do You Look For In A Relationship
Do you really know how build a relationship or a marriage? Have you been reading and studying to find out all you can?
Yes, it’s exciting to be in a relationship. But are you asking them the right questions? Or are you seeking someone who is hot, has a six pack, or has tons of money in their bank account.
What is your standard for a relationship?
It’s great that you might be with someone, but are you really building a solid foundation with them.
Learn To Be Okay By Yourself
Be genuinely okay with the fact that God may never bring someone in your life for you to marry.
Being okay means that you believe your life can still be full. You can still have joy and love and peace. You can still have a purpose, even if you’re not married or in a relationship.
If you have a bitter undertone, it means you’re not okay with who you are, or with your walk with Christ.
Proverbs 31:10 An excellent wife who can find. She is far more precious than jewels.
You should be lost in Jesus. He should be your focus.
I Was A Serial Boyfriend Dater
I talk a lot about my dating in my first book ‘Know Your Worth.’ This book is about laying down the foundation for your relationships. It also talks about how important pursuing Christ is.
Before God changed my heart, I had a boyfriend lined up before the last relationship was over.
I didn’t know how to be single. I didn’t know how to love myself.
In that season, God gave me some wake up calls. I had terrible experiences and terrible dates. People were saying I was too short or I was too young.
I decided to take a break and learn to enjoy being by myself. So I did things. I went to the movies by myself. I would eat out by myself. I would do things that I felt I had to always do with someone else. I learned to appreciate having time to myself. I also appreciated the time I had with my friends.
I learned to enjoy the single season. This is a precious season. You’re never going to get it back. After you get married, you will be with someone forever.
Learn to love yourself and to be okay doing things by yourself.
Look To God For Fulfillment
Are you tired of waiting for someone to come into your life?
You could be focused on wanting someone else to complete you. You may be focused on finding fulfillment in another person.
Searching for another person to complete you will take your focus off Jesus.
Recognize that Jesus is the only One who can fulfill you. He is the only One who can make you happy. Focus on your purpose and your path, and what He has planned for you.
Let God know your feelings, but He doesn’t need to be on your timeline. You may be sick of being by yourself, and you want someone in your life right this instant, but wait on God. Listen to what He is saying to you in this season of your life.
I truly believe there is so much we need to work on in every season of our life, whether we’re single, engaged or married. We are constantly growing.
Some people get married before they’re ready. A marriage won’t solve your problems.
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You are worth it,