Loving your body the right way means accepting how you look on your weight loss or fitness journey. The way you feel inside and the way you love yourself is the most important ingredient on this journey.
I have personally walked through this journey. I did not accept the way I looked.
In my early teen years I remember pinching my sides and telling my mom I was fat. Being overweight wasn’t my problem. Thinking I was overweight was my problem.
This led me to putting my identity in my body and the way I looked on the outside. I might have had outwardly gains but inwardly I was weak.
How I Help My Private Coaching Group to Lose Weight
When I work with my private coaching group now, we’re praying that our hearts will be after God. We pray for our eating habits too, but more importantly we don’t just focus on losing those 10 pounds. That’s not our goal.
What is the Lord dealing with in your heart?
Change on the outside comes automatically when you work on everything on the inside.
Start looking at exercise and the way you eat as a form of worship towards God.
The Wrong Way to Loving Your Body
Are you the type of person who does anything to lose those 10 pounds?
If you focus on losing weight only, you will become discouraged and unfulfilled. You will constantly strive to look better. You’ll see someone with six pack abs and strive to reach that as your next goal.
You will start comparing yourself to others all the time.
I’ve been where I’ve gone from exercising making me feel great and strong to killing my body in the gym. It killed my adrenals. It made me completely tired. I wanted to nap every single day that I worked out. I didn’t have any energy to work at my business. I just wanted to sleep. My outward appearance was more important than anything else.
Do you fear nobody will love you?
The enemy has had me in those moments where I was so dependent on how I looked that I thought nobody would love me if my body didn’t look a certain way.
Right now the enemy of your soul may have you thinking if you could be skinnier you could be loved. Maybe you think your husband might love you more if you lost all your weight. Trust me. The enemy had me there too.
Loving your body the right way means loving and pleasing God first.
I want you to be able to do the tasks and purposes that God has set for your life.
I don’t want you to look at working out as a way to just lose 5 pounds, or 10 pounds, or to just get skinny, or to go on a vacation looking good, or fit in that dress, or whatever it is.
Look at your body and the way you eat in a different light.
How do you think your physical life may relate to your purpose?
You may think that your job isn’t important. The job you have right now may take you to where God wants you to go. You can’t dismiss the little steps that He has planned for you because you want to get somewhere big.
Your job right now is where you need to be physically strong and you need to be mentally aware and maybe you need to experience joy in order to talk about God or just to show people who God is.
How would a strong physical life impact your ability to live out your purpose?
Today let the Lord work on your heart. When you go to do your workout, or when you eat, focus on God and ask yourself if this is helping you with your purpose. Is this helping you to be stronger on the inside to be able to do the things He has for your life?
When you exercise, don’t let it be just another workout. Let it be in worship to God. Know you are becoming strong for your husband, or your kids, or your future spouse, or for your business. You want to be able to do the things that He has for you.
Do you see the perspective changing? Instead of just focusing on losing weight, focus on things that are going to make you feel internally better and spiritually stronger. Then you will drop the 10 pounds because you are working on all the things that matter.
When your focus is on your weight or the scale, that becomes your idol and you will do anything you need to in order to get the scale down.
You won’t care how you feel, or how you eat, just as long as that scale keeps going down. You may even have a euphoric feeling that you’re doing this right, but deep inside you know you’re weak and you’re not happy. I don’t want you to feel that way.
How would neglecting your physical life impact your life to live out your purpose?
We have unique gifts and purposes for His will in our lives.
I want you to have the strength inwardly and outwardly to be able to do those tasks that He has set before you.
This is the message that’s been on my heart and I want to get it out because I was that girl who always posted on social media how much I worked out or the size of my biceps. I don’t post that way anymore, because I have a different perspective now.
Focus on the inside and what you’re going through.
I want to help women to focus not only on the outside, but on the inside and what they’re going through. Why do you feel the need to eat? Why do you feel like you’re overeating? Are you hungry right now? How is this serving God?
Is God your number one or is the number on the scale your number one?
When you focus on telling God that you’re working out for Him as an act of worship to be able to do the things He has set before you, it completely changes your mindset.
When you know you are getting fit for God it changes you. It makes you feel more fulfilled than reaching a number on a scale does.
Loving Your Body the Right Way is Being Free of Addictions
The Lord may be speaking to you about your addictions. You may be addicted to certain foods or your addiction may be a fear of getting fat. It could be anything.
I pray that the Lord works on your heart and you can either seek help or get involved in a church and be accountable to someone.
I don’t want you to live in bondage and God doesn’t want you to either.
Resting is a Part of Getting Fit and Loving Your Body the Right Way
Resting is just as important as exercising. I never wanted to rest. To me it felt like I was unproductive.
I feel like the Lord is telling me in my injured moments it’s time to rest. I learned from those injuries how important rest is in between workouts. Rest doesn’t make you unproductive.
Body Image Crisis
‘Body Image Crisis’ is the third chapter in my book ‘Know Your Worth.’ Here is a paragraph from that chapter.
“As I continue to work more on myself, I will never give up on helping other people see who they really are in God’s eyes. All these things we want to be and look like that make us feel less worthy or unattractive are rather insulting to God. We are constantly competing and comparing our bodies when He is looking down on us and wondering why we are questioning how He made us. To think about insulting God like that also puts things into perspective for me. He wants to use us right where we are no matter what that looks like.” knowyourworthbook.com
A scripture to focus on:
Leviticus 19:4 Do not turn to idols, nor make for yourselves molded gods. I am the Lord your God.
If you constantly strive to lose 10 pounds, then those 10 pounds become your idol. Then God is no longer your God. Your body and the weight you want to lose becomes your idol. The way your outside body looks will become your idol.
My body was my idol for years. It was all I focused on. It was all I could think about. I picked myself apart. I don’t want that for you.
At that time I didn’t have people speaking into my life and influencing me in the right direction. Now I do have those strong influences in my life.
Most importantly God got hold of me. I’m hoping the words I’m sharing with you will help you let God get hold of you.
Let your focus be on worshipping God in the acts that you do. If you do you will loving your body the right way.
Are you ready to take steps to loving your body the right way? Which of these points spoke to you the most? Which ones are you doing right now? Leave me a comment below.