Fear is paralyzing for so many people. We all feel it. We become afraid of failure and afraid that we might not amount to anything.
I love working really close with my team of coaches. I love training them. I love giving them the tools they need for success. The common things that I tend to hear from them is about the fear of success and fear of being a leader.
I’m sure you have your own fears.
Trust me. I’m not a psychologist. These are things I’ve learned and experienced and learned working with other entrepreneurs. I’m not a therapist either. This is from knowing what the Lord has put on my heart and the things I’ve been able to learn and process for myself.
1. Fear of Failure
I want you to think about the root of that fear. Fear is never going to go away. Right? We have the fear, but are we letting it drive our life?
Are you letting fear control your life? Or are you going to put it in the back seat, knowing it’s there, but it’s no longer in control of where you go.
I want you to think about the root of your fear because it’s so easy to let the words about your fear roll off the tongue.
Some people say they have the fear of being alone, or of not being a good mom, or fear of the unknown. Those things stem from a root of something else. That fear is controlling you right now and you think you can’t do a certain thing and that you’re unworthy.
If you think you are afraid of being a good mom for eg., then you really start to take on that roll of the fear. Everything you do is based upon it. Therefore what you’re afraid of is literally controlling your life and telling you where to go.
2. What’s the Worst That Could Happen
If you’re afraid of being a failure what’s the worst that could happen? If you’re afraid of being successful what’s the worst that could happen.
Sometimes when we say okay this is the worst that could happen and we own the emotion and ask ourselves where it’s coming from, we find that we just say things so much it becomes a daily habit. We don’t think about what we’re thinking about.
We just say it over and over again and then it becomes a reality and we start to believe it and we wonder where these thoughts came from?
Think about what’s the worst that could happen and write it down. Especially in business. You are problem solvers and you’re passionate about the Lord.
When you write down what’s the worst that could happen, you really process through the emotions you feel. Then you’re able to confront things. You have to stop pushing it aside and ask yourself where is this coming from and what is this that’s controlling my life.
Take that action today.
3. Work on Your Fear Little by Little
Start with something manageable instead of trying to take on the world. Don’t take all your fear and try to get it all out and get rid of it.
If you’re afraid of being alone, I want you to think about what you can control in that situation. We can control us in that situation. That means if you’re afraid of being alone, then you can work on becoming the best soon to be wife, or soon to be husband that you can be.
We have to be the ones who take control of that and say what can I do.
This is something you can manage, instead of trying to manage everything that’s not in your control.
We worry and take things on that are not in our control. We really try to control everything that is not meant for us to control.
4. Getting Out of Your Comfort Zone
We get so comfortable in our own bubble that when we get uncomfortable it makes us nervous. We like routine. As soon as we get out of our routine it makes us anxious and uncomfortable and we don’t know what to do.
But think about those moments where you felt like you were going out of your comfort zone, and think about the pain and the things you were able to get through and how much stronger you are now because of it and how you were able to overcome that.
I think it’s a matter of processing through it, because like I said, fear is never going to go away. You’re going to have fear. It’s going to be a matter of how much you let fear control your life.
How much do you want to take responsibility for what’s going on? Pray about it and be proactive about it.
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What are your fears? What is stopping you from becoming the person you want to be? Let me know in the comments.