Many of us are led by our emotions and not by the Holy Spirit. We’re led by earthly things and not by God.
How My Emotions Ruled Me
When God gives me a message that I write about, it usually pertains to me in some way. I’ve been through the experience of letting my emotions control me and I want to address it and help people learn how to not be controlled by their feelings.
My feelings led me to stay in a relationship longer than I should have because I was afraid of being alone. My feelings have led me to staying stagnant in my business and relationships, because I’m afraid to move forward. It was either too scary or too uncomfortable, so I decided not to do certain things.
My feelings have led me to have a workout addiction because I felt I needed to have a perfect body and a six pack.
Women Process Everything Through Their Emotions
God created women to have feelings. Women are emotional beings. Women process almost everything with their emotions. We look at something and say this makes me feel this way. If we’re in a relationship and something happens we internally process through feelings.
Men process through action centers. They want to know how to solve a problem. They’re not necessarily saying a situation makes them feel a certain way. They are problem solvers and think, “How can I solve this problem?”
Men and women come together in a relationship and the woman may ask the man, “How do you feel about something?” Men have feelings but they’re processing what you’re asking through a different center and emotion than women.
I process everything through my feelings and emotions.
Your Emotions May Lead You Down The Wrong Path
When you start to focus on your feelings they lead you astray. They will lead you down the wrong path. If you are struggling with knowing the difference between your feelings and the Holy Spirit, always go back to what is telling you the truth.
When it comes to your feelings, most of the time it’s some earthly desire, or something that is taking you outside of what God wants you to think and wants you to see.
Ask yourself when you’re feeling a certain way if it’s true. Why do you have those specific emotions? Address your emotions instead of letting them run wild.
Proverbs 30:5-6 Every word of God proves true. He is a shield to those who take refuge in Him. Do not add to His words lest He rebuke you and you be found a liar.
Most of the time your emotions and feelings are liars.
Let me break down this scripture in Proverbs 30:5-6.
- Every word of God proves true. Everything He says about you is truth. If you are feeling a certain bondage or stronghold or you feel you need to be a certain way, then go to His word and ask, “Why do I feel this way? Is this true?” Go back to His Word when you start to have those emotions.
- He is a shield to those who take refuge. I love that. His word protects us. His Word is truth. You’re able to spiritually do warfare with His Word against the enemy of your feelings and what we feel we need to be thinking or doing.
- Do not add to His words. I think when we let an emotion go too long it starts to spiral. It’s like worry. You worry about something that’s probably never going to happen and worry about that worry and then it snowballs. It’s like we add on to His words. You might hold a scripture, but you are worrying at the same time. Take His words at His word. You don’t need to add anything to it. His word is the truth. That’s it.
- Lest He rebuke you and you be found a liar. Feelings are mostly liars. If you really sit back and think about what you’re feeling and why you’re feeling it, you’ll find it’s probably a lie. Most of it is deep rooted. Maybe your parents said you would never be successful or a boyfriend said you would never be able to succeed in life or he said that you are not attractive or good looking.
Don’t Let Your Emotions Control You
I work with women all the time. Usually there is one situation that made them feel a particular way and they’ve held on to it. They’ve held on to the lies for so long.
Go back to the Word today and don’t let your feelings and emotions control you. First of all write down your emotions, whether you’re sad, fearful or scared. Ask yourself which emotions are stopping you from starting up your business. What emotions are stopping you from maybe ending a relationship? Why do you feel lonely?
Go back to the root of the problem. Figure out what the Holy Spirit is trying to tell you. What does His Word say? His Word is going to guide you. His Word is going to take you to the next level and help you not make dumb decisions.
Making Wrong Decisions
I have made so many dumb decisions. The Holy Spirit would give me warning signs. I talk about this in my book, ‘Know Your Worth’. I should’ve ended my relationship but I let my emotions control me. I thought I’ll just text him one more time or I’ll just do this or that one more time. It never felt good. We think if we follow our feelings that it’s going to feel good. Most of the time it feels terrible.
Put your emotions in check. Especially women.
If you feel like an emotional being today, journal through those emotions and figure out why it is you feel that way.
Your Past Decisions Don’t Define You
The book I wrote, ‘Know Your Worth’, is about helping you live the kind of life God wants you to live without negative self beliefs. This book will literally help you get past those beliefs.
Your past decisions don’t define you. My book is about every single area of your life and helping you know that you don’t have to settle, that you don’t have to live with less than what God has called you to live with because you are qualified.
No matter what your past is and the things you have done, you are able to take those right now and be reborn in your purity or in your decisions and take that to a new level.
Go to KnowYourWorth.com to learn more about my book and how it can help you.
Do you struggle with allowing your emotions to lead you versus the Holy Spirit? Are you ready to search the Word for the answers? What other suggestions would you have to help people not be led by their emotions? Let me know in the comments.