When I was a teenager and living off buttered toast, my dreams of a prosperous future never entered my mind. I never dreamed I would be where I am today. I thought life was going to be like that forever. Minimal clothes, sometimes heat or not. It’s easy to become accustomed to thinking this is all life has to offer.
It wasn’t until I started to break free and become my own person that I discovered there is a much bigger life out there for me than I could ever imagine. I don’t care where your bank account is right now or what you are eating etc. It doesn’t mean you will be there your whole life. You have to change your mindset in order to change your life. You have to believe God is bigger than any of your problems. Start with that faith as small as a mustard seed and allow God to grow it.
Why My Dreams Were Shattered
Let’s dive into this more.
I was told over the phone by someone who was supposed to be one of the most loving people on earth to me, that I was a drop out. He added a few more words in there that are not exactly words for me to type but I am sure you can guess. My father, the one who is supposed to make me feel safe, protected and loved made me feel insecure, worthless and stupid. I tried going to college…. twice, in fact. I got told that I should stick it out and make sure I get a college degree because some people were “worried” about my future. “You’ll never make it far if you don’t have a degree,” they said. I didn’t fit the typical finish high school, graduate college speech. Nor did I want to. If everyone is wearing black I want to be the girl who is wearing blue.
People see your success, the things you have and how you present yourself and typically think one of two things. One, your parents paid for everything and you had just the best childhood ever. Two, they will say the word that every successful entrepreneur will cringe at, “you are lucky”. No actually, all you see is my glory and not my story.
When we are young, we have dreams of the future all the time. We said everything from wanting to be a ballerina to president of the United States. Our dreams seemed endless and possible. We never took a moment to doubt and we feared nothing. As we get older, we become more observant, pick up on how people treat us, talk to us, and so on. This distorts our visions and dreams. It makes us second guess who we are and what we are supposed to be doing. We live in fear because we wonder who are we going to upset this time and what do I need to do for this person to like me.
When my dad started to hit my brother and I and when I was old enough to remember my dad beating my mom in front of us, my dreams stopped and fear replaced them. The constant noise of loud screaming filled the house. It seemed like this happened every day from the time I can remember as a young child. Going into my teenage years the abuse continued with plates of food being thrown across the room and my dad pinning me up against the dryer. This was normal. Wasn’t it? I mean didn’t other people experience fights and getting yelled at all the time? When was I going to get the speech, “you can be anything you want to be in this world?”
At a very young age I had to learn to fend for myself. This included shampoo, conditioner, and basically any of the essentials you can think of. I was sleeping on four box spring beds piled on top of each other with a mattress that had tares and springs poking me in the back.
“I will never live like this when I get older,” something I told myself often. We would go months without hot water. I would go weeks without any real food. I mean if we got name brand Doritos that was a huge deal. Most of the food would come from the salvation army and we would live off of buttered toast. I can remember having 6-7 slices at one time. It was my go to snack and meal.
I Decided Not To Give Up
What does any of this have to do with being a successful entrepreneur?
It has everything to do with where I am today. See, the thing is, I never knew God even existed until I was 22. Never had a real relationship with him till I turned 25 and now I am 26. We get into this mindset that whatever season we are in that it will be that way forever and I am here to tell you NO YOU WON’T.
You can take your experiences in this life and use them to your advantage. You can change your life the moment you decide to not give up. God had me the whole time in His arms and I didn’t even know it. I stayed consistent and I stayed focused on the path ahead. It was all I had at this point.
I decided I wasn’t going to give up but that I was going to fight.
I was 21 when I moved into my first house. I was 22 when I opened my first business. I was 24 when I “retired” from my full time retail management job & paid off $44,000 in debt. All from a girl who grew up in a trailer park (not that they are bad but mine was) & came from no money.
My Advice For Your Dreams of Success
My words of advice for today is this, you will only ever be as successful as you want to be. When things don’t work the way you thought they would then you try something else. When you get declined or talked about, then you keep your eyes focused on Jesus because He knows the plans He has for you. It doesn’t matter how old or young you are God has something different in mind for you. Something better. When you have God’s anointing on your life He will take you to places you could never go on your own. He will supply you the knowledge, resources, mentors for every step of the way.
I could have easily let my past dictate my future. I could have let the resources and money I didn’t have at the time keep me from moving forward. My friends, what it takes is belief. You have to believe with your whole heart that you can do whatever it is that you are setting out to do. When you start to believe you will become a unstoppable force. I promise that.
With so much love,
Were your dreams shattered in the past? What steps can you take to move forward? Let me know in the comments.